Coral colored glass jewelry set by Alexis Berger www.alexisberger.com
Bee floral boutonnière by Alexis Berger www.alexisberger.com
Cupid’s boutonnière, glass by Alexis Berger www.alexisberger.com
Glass Olive branch with Dove Broach by Alexis Berger www.alexisberger.com
Glass Flameworked Barrettes and pins by Alexis Berger www.alexisberger.com
Grand masquerade coral glass earrings with bronze glass detail by Alexis Berger www.alexisberger.com
Glass boutonniere components which I made for my friends were going to Carnaval in Venice. Www.alexisberger.com
Today’s Etsy listing! Turquoise with clear drops that magnify the color below. https://www.etsy.com/listing/177610391/turquoise-flame-work-drop-earrings-with
New cameo style earrings www.alexisberger.com
A Short Essay on Beauty and Design.
The pressure in our culture to be beautiful is so strong (for both men and women) that for years I rebelled against it as an act of defiance. All I knew of “acceptable” feminine beauty was so pre-packaged and focus-grouped that I reacted by throwing out the concept of personal beauty all together. I knew I could never live up to it, and furthermore, I knew deep down that I simply didn’t agree with it. It wasn’t the beauty that I saw in my mind. Later as a designer I tried to sneak up on the idea by casting the concept through different lenses: functionality, comfort, utility… etc. As I had seen these qualities work as good baselines to design objects. Functionality and comfort always come first when I make something, But whenever I design an object, I always try my best to make it as beautiful as I possibly can. But I didn’t have the courage to design my clothes/image “Beautifully” because some part of me didn’t want to be beautiful. I didn’t want the attention it would bring because I was afraid it would be called out as a fraud. “How could that plain girl think she could wear that outfit? Who does she think she is?”
I wish I knew exactly when I changed my mind about this. I could credit many people for helping change my self-perception: my husband, my friends and parents. But ultimately it was an internal and slow change that allowed me to have the confidence to create myself as the image of beauty that I designed. I knew that image would be different from the pictures of beauty that were being presented to me in the media, but I wanted to BE the beauty I wanted to see in the world and I am still learning how to make that happen.
I think I will always be a beginner in this regard, as my ideas of what’s beautiful keep changing and evolving, I will never feel that I am perfect or that I achieve my mind’s ideal, but I now feel the pressure that I put on myself to strive for that is healthy and an act of self-love rather than a exercise in futility and shame. And because it is pressure I put on myself, I can give myself permission to drop it when I want and wear jeans and a teeshirt.
I should add that one of my inspirations that helped me on my way to this way of thinking are the challenges that face transgendered/genderqueer people. I you felt you were literally born in the wrong body, you face a huge burden to bring yourself to see your own image as beautiful. Yet it is achievable by somehow having the courage to be what you want to see, making your transition in whatever way and to whatever degree you feel comfortable, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable to criticism. Just the act of showing you care about how you are perceived opens yourself up to critique and that can be incredibly scary. People who feel they were born differently have such a challenge to overcome, which puts my hang-ups in perspective. : )